The Two Fridas – Frida Kahlo 1939 (Museo De Arte Modern)
The last time I recall being sincerely happy was when I was a child.
If I was climbing a tree or enjoying a piece of Mary Jane from the candy store, I was truly phappy. There was no pressure of life. There was no FOMO or JOMO.
I woke up free to be whoever I wanted. I had dreams. I wasn’t worried about my health, bills, friends, or husband. The best part of it all was that I didn’t have to work.
Whenever I needed or wanted anything my parents most likely got it for me unless it was something frivolous in nature.
A friend of mines sent me a text message that said, “I’m going to apply for some different type of jobs I’m so over the office life” to which I gladly responded…”I’m just happy to have a job or career.” Before I could finish responding I felt a light bulb switch on in my head and then I subsequently added, “I guess I should see relationships the same way…”
After hitting the send button, I stood there smiling in amazement, “Well, I be damn” I was thinking. Most of the pain and agony we experience daily is a result of a misinterpretation of a perspective we’ve formed in our thinking.
I can create as much unhappiness as I want daily. Drive my own blood pressure up. All because I choose to be impatient, unsatisfied, and depressed. If the person I value doesn’t reciprocate it’s a cause for earnest concern. Ultimately, I could cry myself to sleep at night; every night. What’s up with that? This applies to a-lot of areas in life.
Maybe we ought to learn or teach ourselves the true meaning of happiness. Happiness is defined by the way you think not by what you do. No one can give or take it away from you.
Instead of beginning our sentences with “I can’t wait..” or “I wish…”, learn to start your sentences with “I’m happy.” For example you could start off by saying, “I’m happy to be alive” or “I’m happy that I still have enough money to eat after all the bills were paid.”
The truth is happiness and gratitude can take us much further than the things we worry about daily. Perhaps if I can learn to do more of this I can put an end to my own suffering. You should follow suit but it’s entirely up to you.
I have been speaking with my family and friends on keeping up the habit of enjoying both pitfalls and upsides. We go thru ups and downs. Discipline the mind to expect and accept both.